Enjoy motherhood, my friend!

Baby K's mummy hung up her Jimmy Choo or Christian Louboutin and opted for Nike or whatever walking shoes that are popular in Scotland instead. Seriously, Baby K's mummy had put her career on hold and decided to concentrate all her energy and attention on Baby K.  Baby K is so adorable, energetic and a very precocious baby. I can understand why it is difficult to leave Baby K with someone else while my dear friend has a career.   

This is the right decision and a tough one. 

This is right because she followed her heart. Having made up her mind, she does not have to make a choice between her job and being a mum. She does not need to feel guilty when she is compelled to choose her job over her child.  She does not need to adjust her schedule so she can make work and baby pickup times work and perhaps avoid traffic during peak hours too.  

She is guaranteed to witness almost all of Baby K's transformation during her formative years. She will be around for the many first — the first "I love you, mummy",  the first alphabet, the first number and many first phrases and imitations on mummy and daddy.  Both of them will make a lot of memorable moments such as baking cookies and making arts and crafts. 

I know it is important for  her that Baby K knows her relatives and cousins in Singapore and Malaysia. My dear friend is in a better position to make this a reality. She can plan for trips back to Asia and her only consideration is to workaround school holiday schedules.  

It is a tough because career is an important part of her life and mine too. I cannot imagine myself making a decision to stay home for a child. To me, it is like loosing a piece of myself and my identify because my job defines me.I guess motherhood trumps everything else in life. I want to remind her that she made the right decision. She can always build a career later. She plays many roles in life — a wife, a mother, a daughter, a sister, a friend, a daughter-in-law, a sister-in-law and etc... It is ok to put her job role on hold. When she is ready, she will find a beautiful pair of Jimmy Choo or Christian Louboutin to welcome her back to the workforce. Enjoy motherhood and make the best of it!